Here are some great tea party tips from an article on Squidoo.
Tea Party Tips and Etiquette
Tea Party tips and etiquette. Use your best china for a tea party. Teacups and saucers are preferable to heavy mugs. Invest in a small tea service (teapot, milk pitcher, sugar bowl, size teacups and saucers and six cake plates).
Use cloth napkins - cotton or linen at a tea party.
Present the food attractively at a tea party. Cover your tray or cart with a tray cloth, doilies or a pretty napkin. A single rose in a bud vase, or a basket of seasonal fruit adds warmth to the scene. Arrange food on a three tiered cake stand.
Atmosphere is important at a tea party. Instead of in the kitchen, serve tea by a crackling fire or in the garden. Decorate with fresh flowers and add the quiet, melodic background music of a harpist or pianist.
As hostess of a tea party, pour the tea, passing it to each guest in turn, adding sugar cubes if requested.
Your ladies might want to wear victorian hats and crocheted gloves at your tea party.
Give party favors at your tea party. Tea party favors vary and you can use your imagination and give according to your tea party theme.
Conversation should be light and fun-filled at a tea party, no gossip or deep subjects that can be disturbing to others.